Maxine Marsolini and I will interview Dr. Gregory Jantz about emotional abuse on our blog talk radio show on Monday January 31^st. Dr. Jantz says many victims of emotional abuse tend to minimize their abuse even though the abuse can affect all their relationships. Has emotional abuse affected you? Go through the check list below, identifying whether you were emotionally abused in the past or are being abused presently. Then tune in to our show on the 31^st and let Dr. Jantz tell you how to begin healing.

Signs of Emotional Abuse from the book

Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse

by Dr. Gregory Jantz

1. Making the person feel worthless
2. Putting the blame for one’s mistakes on the other person
3. Minimizing the other person’s point of view
4. Threatening or hinting of physical or sexual abuse
5. Going into fits of rage
6. Failing to fulfill commitments or promises made or implied
7. Lying to avoid responsibility for the truth
8. Refusing to acknowledge the other person’s feeling
9. Verbally or physically humiliating the other person through inappropriate gestures, comments, or “jokes”
10. Using shame or guilt to manipulate the actions of the other person
11.  Not allowing the other person to articulate his or her feelings
12. Denying the person access to his or her personal possessions or pets
13. Withholding financial resources
14. Refusing to communicate with the other person – the silent treatment
15. Displaying extreme ranges of mood
16. Making conditional agreements in which the conditions keep changing to avoid fulfilling the agreement
17. Using a hostile or sarcastic tone of voice with the other person
18. Being critical or each action, thought or remark of the other person
19. Viewing others as a part of that person’s own personality as opposed to individuals with their own thoughts, feelings, and opinions
20. Belittling, humiliating, marginalizing, and / or ignoring the other person